Take charge or perish : This is why in my last post, I had a clear reasoning why humans should perish in order for the planet and our environment to survive. The same goes for the business world. Many must perish in order for a few to make it. And those who perish have a mindset like the fellow who I had exchanged emails with recently.

There are a privileged few on this planet who will first question you as to what you can do for them far as work is concerned rather than showing you what they have done and the extent of work and sacrifices they have put forth in order to make their business happen.

No Mr Jones, no one is responsible for your success. When I, as a business owner approach someone to sell them the value of the system, I am not saying to them - “This business makes me $150k per year. It will do the same for you. Why don’t you join, while I work my ass off for you and it will make you the same amount of money?”

No! I don’t do that. These people as in so called entrepreneur wannabes do not realize that success, rewards and results are all based on the self. Yes, there are instances where the person inviting their client to their business should assist and help the new business owner grow, by way of referrals and sales. Yet, this is taken for granted and many people who join in any kind of business, especially an online business expect their team leader, sponsor to carry the load for them.

The gentleman, whose email I received below claims to have been involved with network marketing since 1980. Today he is unemployed and presumably broke. How can that be? 28 years hence! Did he fail for lack of work ethic and vision or was his circumstances faulted on his peers or worse because of the companies he was involved with? I don’t know.

What I know is, something went terribly wrong and the man who is crying foul should take 100% of the responsibility of his apparent or perhaps real failure by looking inward rather than point fingers elsewhere.

Some concerns are understandable and I can relate with it. What pissed me off was his last 2 apprehensions or rather belief system, which I couldn’t come to terms with. Although a mentor and sponsor’s help is essential, these folks do not strive to put the time, work and sweat required to attain the knowledge and expert status gained by others in their field.

They are forever looking upwards to someone else as their light source. No brother! The light source is within you. Go online. Read what other people do. Research. Not for a day or two, but everyday. Until you get it. Take risks. Go through your business with trials and errors. Be doggedly determined by taking actions and not just talking around the water coolers. Share your business. Inspire others. Keep selling. Never give up.

These are but a few of the things mentors do. Hey! You don’t need a mentor beyond a week. You can be the one. Take charge. Take action. Consistently. Every day! Did it sink in yet? If not, read over. Did those words mean anything at all?

Below is his grievances.

Let’s be real for a moment…. I know network marketing and others since 1980. I connect with companies that have products or services that I use and benefit me. I share them with others have made some money. nothing great… because I never had a sponsor that helped me in the way I needed help for my success.

I just invested in [Some Company]

[Some Link]

That will make me a 7 figure / year income within 3-5 years. People don’t realize the paradigm shift that is happening with [some industry] life events. I am learning to lead myself and my team. Which is tough. However I must do it. I am cause motivated… and immediate money motivated due to my financial situation.

So if you want me to be a part of your organization,

1st - basics of your product… value, cost, what it does for people etc
2nd - how much time are you willing to invest in me building an income for us….
3rd - I have been unemployed and I am looking for a job/income… do you have a way to make us both money before I spend money…

Those are the basics.

If you want to pursue this business relationship… let’s talk how do I get a hold of you?

Thanks,
[Some Name]

My Response

[Some Name], I make over $150k a year, every year with my business. Your 2nd and 3rd questions are absurd.

You are not going to make it with that kind of a mindset. I will give you a sponsor. Work your ass off if you wanna make it through. Take charge or perish.

[Some Link]

Chris

What I said to him will be hard for him to digest. The business world is not for everyone. This is why the business ecosystem effectively and ruthlessly weeds out the failures and the losers, not because they did not try. But, because they did not try HARD ENOUGH! LONG ENOUGH!

Becoming successful is all about the SELF. The moment you point fingers elsewhere, you are (in my eyes) a big, huge, pathetic loser. You should have never been attempting to start or expect to succeed in any business anyways.

Brutal, but true. Take charge or perish!